Creating and maintaining harmonic and correct relationships is of great importance in our lives. Interpersonal relationships directly affect our mental and emotional health. More and more we have become aware that having harmonious relationships has the great power of increasing our well-being and extending life, since it makes us more long-lived. The care of our relationships is leading to the fact that today it is more common to attend couples therapy, family therapy, group therapy, online or in person in Bogotá. Since the psychological therapy space either online or in Bogotá, with a health professional, allows a constructive dialogue, active listening, greater awareness and it is easier to jointly build desired changes within a safe therapeutic space, of respect and empathy.
What AreThe Filters From Which We Are Interacting?
It is important to ask ourselves: through what filters (cultural, beliefs, principles) am I seeing the world, am I relating to myself and to others? To answer this question, it is useful to understand how I am alike and how I differ from the other (partner, colleague, friend, or even applies to a family member); It can be in language, values (ex: honesty, rectitude, generosity, etc.), lifestyles, tastes, cultural or spiritual beliefs, political affinities, etc. Once I am aware of these differences and similarities, it is possible to begin to value and appreciate the differences, rather than rejecting or fighting with them.
Value and Appreciate the Differences to Mainteint Harmonic and Correct Relationships
When we are consciously aware of these differences in our ways of seeing the world and of relating to each other, we can also see more clearly what the other has, and perhaps I do not have. We can realize what I have extra and what the other has little. So we see the differences as a complement that feeds us both as a couple, or allows us to work better as a team at work, or allows us to grow and support each other as friends or members of the same family system.
In other words, I don’t see the difference as something negative, conflictive. Likewise, it is important to respect these differences and stop expecting the other to be as we believe “should be, should think, act, speak.” On the contrary, we open ourselves to the possibility of seeing these differences as something that complements me/us. Therefore, I do not reject, I do not exclude that of the other because it is “different” and “does not meet my expectations or parameters”, but on the contrary I am able to open up and allow a healthy and loving exchange with what is different.
Healthy Exchanges for Harmonic and Correct Relationships
All relationship involves thinking in an exchange of energy. When we are aware of this exchange dynamic, we can promote reciprocity. In this way, giving and receiving will tend to be in harmony, in balance and equilibrium. Thus, all members of the relationship can feel satisfied by what they give and receive; as well as feeling responsible for the relational dynamics that they are co-creating, and for the inter-dependency that they are generating.
If you want to read and explore how to facilitate and find balance and harmony whitn yourself, I invite you to read the article “How to Improeve your Mental and Emotional Health During the Pandemic”.
Of Great Importance is: Assuming Our Responsability
It is of great importance to assume our responsibility as agents and builders of our relationships. This is the key to facilitate harmonious and correct relationships. Regardless of whether the other is very similar to me and we have many things in common; or that on the contrary we share very little and there are more differences, I am the one who decide how to respond to those differences or similarities. I am the one who decide to create relationships of respect and non-violence. And in case the relationship is toxic, I am the one who decides to stay away and interact as little as possible. Or if I realize that it is important to work and improve the relationship, I can learn to value the differences to complement, support and grow together.
Couple, Family or Group Psychological Therapy
Psychological therapy is an excellent resource that help us to improve our couple, family, work or social relationships. Psychological therapy for couples, families or groups, allows us to feel accompanied to move with greater clarity, strength and in connection with our own inner power, facing different challenges that as members of a couple, family, of a work team, of a social group we can experience (ex: fear, confusion, pressure, need to make a decision, little appreciation, dissatisfaction, disconnection) or that we can live (a divorce, an immigration process, a loss, a crisis in the life cycle, etc).
If you want to receive help and professional support, I offer you psychological therapy in Spanish and/or English. You can choose to do online therapy from the comfort of your home, wherever you are. Or we can do psychological therapy in Bogotá in person.
Wishing that your personal relationships grow, develop and flourish.